Three types of kindness

There is the kindness of ‘please’ and ‘thank you.’ And the kindness of “I was wrong, I’m sorry.” The small kindnesses that smooth our interactions and help other people feel as though you’re aware of them. These don’t cost us much, in fact, in most settings, engaging with kindness is an essential part of connection, engagement and forward motion.

And then there is the kindness of dignity. Of giving someone the benefit of the doubt. The kindness of seeing someone for the person that they are and can become, and the realization that everyone, including me and you, has a noise in our heads, a story to be told, fear to be danced with and dreams to be realized.

And there’s another: The kindness of not seeking to maximize short-term personal gain. The kindness of building something for the community, of doing work that matters, of finding a resilient, anti-selfish path forward.

Kindness isn’t always easy or obvious, because the urgent race to the bottom, to easily measured metrics and to scarcity, can distract us. But bending the arc toward justice, toward dignity and toward connection is our best way forward.

Kindness multiplies and it enables possiblity. When we’re of service to people, we have the chance to make things better.

Source: Seth Godin

Favorite Rooftop Vibes for a Birthday or Special Celebration

  1. The Graham in Georgetown
  2. Whiskey Charlie in SW Waterfront
  3. 12 Stories in SW Waterfront
  4. La Vie in SW Waterfront
  5. W Hotel POV in Penn Quarter
  6. Beacon Hotel in Logan Circle
  7. Hotel Zena in Logan Circle
  8. Hi-Lawn at Union Market
  9. Takoda in Shaw
  10. El Techo in Shaw
  11. City Winery in Ivy City
  12. Top of the Gate at The Watergate Hotel

COVID-19 Date Nights

  1. Sip & Paint – Order Paint Set on Amazon, 2 bottles of wine, and music playlist.
  2. Custom Puzzle of a nice ‘couple pic’ from your Instagram. Add a music playlist to the background for a great evening soundtrack.
  3. Museum Night – MoMa and others.

Lessons Learned

18 Things I learned from 34 years on earth.

  1. Never argue and raise your voice outside of a courtroom. It doesn’t accomplish anything.
  2. Don’t force things. Blessings don’t flow and move in our lives in that way. God’s plan is frictionless. We create the friction.
  3. People show us who they are. Pay attention and believe them. It’ll save you headache and heartache.
  4. Almsgiving is powerful and transformative for both sides. Practice Maimonides’ Eight levels of giving. It’s life-changing.
  5. Fasting and prayer without committing sin is how I hear God’s voice. Learn how you hear it. It’s different for everyone.
  6. Learn to listen to your inner voice. It will never lead you wrong.
  7. Humble yourself. Reveling in your own success is an insult to God. The glory belongs to him.
  8. Watch the company you keep. Mediocrity is contagious. Keep bad vibes and energy away from you. Always remember, energy is not created nor destroyed. It’s simply transferred.
  9. Business partnerships are like marriages. Don’t rush into them. “Date” first. Do small projects together. Learn about one another beyond the present. Grow into “marriage.”
  10. Save one-tenth of everything you make. Invest it wisely. It can, and will, change your life.
  11. Prioritize your health– physical and mental. Get a doctor for both.
  12. Traveling the world, particularly observing the lives and ambitions of our brothers and sisters in developing countries, will inspire you to be the best version of yourself.
  13. Celebrate the small wins.
  14. Three-ply toilet tissue is a simple luxury worth having.
  15. Education in America is a major key to a better life. It’s one of the best vehicles in the world for social mobility to transform and improve lives of current and future generations. Invest in it. For yourself, your family, and your community. 
  16. Being able to comfortably say no to anything or anyone is true freedom.
  17. If you want to be successful, learn to fail and grow from it. Failure leads to success.
  18. You can’t eat or drink everything you used to love as a kid. Your body chemistry changes with time. It can be confusing and mindboggling. It’s a hard pill to swallow, figuratively speaking.

 

Life has a way of teaching us the lessons we need to learn.

 

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